How to Build Healthy Relationships

    Healthy relationships are fun and make you feel good about

yourself. You can have a healthy relationship with anyone in your

life, including your family, friends and dating partners.

    Healthy relationship are important to everyone. They take place
between individuals as well as in groups.
    Many people want healthy relationship in their lives, but defining
a healthy relationship can be tricky. Relationships are informed by
one's cultural identity, relationship history, and a range of factors
and so they can vary in terms of closeness, purpose and meaning.

   Sometimes a relationship begins positively and only gradually

takes more unhealthy forms. It can be all too easy to fall into

problematic patterns without realizing.

    No relationship is perfect. However, the sign of a healthy

relationship is that it enhances your life and bring more happiness

than stress. In a healthy relationship you and your partner are

treating each ather well.

    Each of us is different. There is no one way to a healthy

relationship. The following are actions you can take to start to build

healthy relationship :

• Understand Each Other's Personal Values. Misunderstanding and
  conflicts happen when you values conflicts with those of others, and
  when expectations are not met. You can let others know what your
  values are by tell them. You can find out about their values by asking
  questions or observing their actions. Knowing what's important the
  ethers and yourself will avoid unnecessary conflict.
• Learn to Listen. All people want to be taken seriously and be
  appreciated. When you listen attentively without interrupting , you
  are showing respect. Allow people to tell you about the books they
  have read, the things they did, and how they feel. Listening will give
  you the opportunity to learn about their values and expectations.
• Show Kindness. You can smile, it is the simplest act to show
  friendliness. Make others feel your warmth by offering help and kind
  words. Acknowledge their talents and achievements. Give praise and
  appreciate their efforts. Show it in your tone of voice, your posture
  and your actions.
• Avoid Arguments (Remove Ego and Pride). In argument, people want to
  prove a point using force, threats, and intimidation causing
  resentment. In this situation, no one actually wins or benefits. Step
  back, and look at the situation from a different point of view. You
  are not submitting, but altering the outcome by letting others see
  that you are committed to the relationship. You should try to
  compromise. Forgive people when they make mistakes. If you have made a
  mistake, admit it, and apologize sincerely.
• Give and Take. Give what you are comportable with and accept what
  other can give. Contribute your time and effort without unreasonable
  expectations in return. When you do good deeds for others, let that be
  its own reward so that you don't build resentments.
• Share Your Feeling. Ask for what you want and need. People can't
  read your mind. Make your request with a smile be direct don't use
  "hints". Communicate and share your thoughts and feelings with them.
  Develop Trust. Trust is the foundation of healthy relationship. Keep
  your promises. Once people trust you, you can have a healthy
  relationship. Open up, and allow them to understand you.
• Develop Trust. Trust is the foundation of healthy relationship. Keep
  your promises. Once people trust you, you can have a healthy
  relationship.

How to Solve Relationship Problems

  Everyone's relationships are different but sometimes we face

similiar issues. Relationship problems with your spouse, family,

co-worker, or friend effect your personal growth, success and well

being.

    A close couple relationship provides an ideal opportunity for many

of the essential emotional needs of both partners to be met.

    However, relationship problems can occur when one both of you feel

that your needs aren't being met.

    A relationship can also become troubled if you either misuse or do

not maximise your natural resources. Not taking care of your own

emotional needs can lead you to become unhappy and suffer with

emotional, mental,social, and relationship problems.

    For example, as people one of our must important emotional needs

is attention. If you feel that you are not getting enough attention

then problems may start to arise in your relationship.

    It is important, however, to try to achieve a healthy balance.

Asking for too much attention, or perhaps even becoming demanding or

manipulative, obviously isn't going to make for a happy relationship

or marriage either.

    The following are ways to solve relationship problems :

• Understand Each Other's Family Patterns. Find out how conflicts were
  manage or not manage in your partners family. It is not unusual for
  couples to discover that their families had different ways of
  expressing anger and resolving differences. If your family wasn't good
  at communicating or resolving conflict constructively, give yourself
  permission to try out some new ways of handling conflict.
• Timing Counts. Contrary to previous notions, the best time to
  resolve a conflict may not be immediately. It is not unusual for one
  or both partners to need some time to cool off. This "time-out" period
  can help you avoid saying or doing hurtful things in the heat of the
  moment, and can help partners more clearly identify what changes are
  most important. Remember-if you angry with your partner but don't know
  what you want yet, it will be nearly impossible for your partner to
  figure it out!
• Establish an Atmosphere of Emotional Support. Emotional support
  involves accepting your partner's differences and not insisting that
  he or she meet your needs only in the precise way that you want them
  met. Find out how your partner show his or her love for you, and don't
  set absolute criteria that require your partner to always behave
  differently before you are satisfied.
• Agree to Disagree and Move On. Most couples will encounter some
  issues upon which they will never completely agree. Rather than
  continuing a cycle of repeated fights, agree to disagree and negotiate
  a compromise or find a way to work around the issue.
• Distinguish Between Things You Want Versus Things You Need from Your
  Partner. For example, for safety reasons, you might need your partner
  to remember to pick up you up on time after dark. But calling you
  several times a day may really only be a "want".
• Clarify Your Messages. A clear message involves a respectful but
  direct expression of your wants and needs. Take some time to identify
  what you really want before talking to your partner. Work on being
  able to describe your request in clear, observable terms. For example,
  you might say, "i would like you to hold my hand more often" rather
  than the vague, "i wish you were more affectionate."
• Discuss One Thing At a Time. It can be tempting to list your
  concerns or grievances, but doing so will likely prolog an argument.
  Do your best to keep the focus on resolving one concern at atime.
• Really Listen. Being a good listener requires the following : (a)
  don't interrupt, (b) focus on what your partner is saying rather than
  on formulating your own response, and (c) check out what you heard
  your partner say. You might start this process with : "i think you are
  saying ... " or "what i understood you to say was ... ". This step
  alone can prevent misunderstandings that might otherwise develop into
  a fight.
• Restrain Yourself. Research has found that couples who "edit"
  themselves and do not say all the angry things they may be thinking
  are typically the happiest.
• Adopt a "Win-Win" Position. A "win-win" stance means that your goal
  is for the relationship, rather than for either partner, to "win" in
  conflict situation. Ask yourself : "is what i am about to say or do
  going to increase or discrease the odds that we will work this problem
  out?"